What Perimenopause Can Change
Understand Her. Stay Connected.
The Intimacy Cipher
Decoding Menopause to empower Partners
Discover The Intimacy Cipher to learn what perimenopause and menopause affect, how to support your female partner with greater understanding, and how to nurture your physical and emotional connection through it all.
Try a Free
Introductory Session
Start with a free, 20-minute introduction from Dr. Angie Stoehr exploring what perimenopause and menopause can mean for your relationship, and how our program can help you support both her health and yours.
Understand the
Transition. Learn
How to Show
up for It.
The Intimacy Cipher is an 8-week, physician-led educational program created for male partners whose female partners are navigating perimenopause or menopause. It brings men into a conversation they’re often left out of, helping them understand the physical, hormonal, emotional, sexual, and relational changes that accompany this stage of life.
But understanding is only the beginning. The program explores what meaningful support can look like at home, during appointments, and within the relationship itself. Participants also learn to prioritize their own mental, relational, and sexual health while supporting the person they love.
Through evidence-informed lessons, practical reflection, live conversations with Dr. Stoehr, and continued community support, The Intimacy Cipher gives male partners a framework for navigating their partner’s transition with more knowledge, compassion, and intention.
There’s No Manual for Menopause
Dr. Stoehr has spent years caring for women navigating menopause and has seen an important pattern: supportive partners make a meaningful difference.
The challenge is that many male partners want to help but were never taught what their partner may be experiencing or what support actually looks like. The Intimacy Cipher helps close that education gap, replacing confusion and guesswork with a clearer understanding of the transition and practical ways to move through it together.
Meet Dr. Stoehr
A Physician Who Has Spent Her Career Listening to Conversations Others Often Overlook
Dr. Angie Stoehr founded The Stoehr Center, specializing in sexual dysfunction and chronic pelvic and sexual pain. Her work focuses on understanding the whole person, including the physical, emotional, relational, and lifestyle factors that influence health and sexual well-being.
She created The Intimacy Cipher after seeing how much more confidently women navigate difficult transitions when their partner has the education to understand their experience and the tools to offer meaningful support.
Credentials & Focus
- Angie Stoehr, MD, FACOG
- Founder, The Stoehr Center
- Pelvic Pain & Sexual Dysfunction Specialist
- Member, ISSWSH & IPPS
- Functional Medicine & Health Coaching
What You’ll Understand
Learn more about what may be changing and how informed, thoughtful support can strengthen the way you navigate it together.
Making Sense of the Transition
Supporting Her at Appointments
How Desire Can Shift
What Helps at Home
Supporting Your Own Health
What’s Included in The
Intimacy Cipher
Weekly lessons, guided support, practical resources, and an ongoing community designed to help male partners
better understand and navigate this transition.
Weekly Video Lessons
Build your understanding through physician-led, literature-based lessons exploring perimenopause, intimacy, support, communication, desire, and your role as a partner.
The Field Manual
Reflect and act on what you’re learning with a companion field manual designed to bring the program into everyday life.
Weekly Live Group Sessions
Bring questions, experiences, and challenges to group conversations with Dr. Stoehr and learn alongside other husbands navigating similar transitions.
More Than a Video Course
The Intimacy Cipher combines independent learning with direct physician guidance, community, and support.
One-on-One Consultation With Dr. Stoehr
Meet privately with Dr. Stoehr for an hour-long conversation focused on the circumstances unique to your relationship and the questions that you want answered.
Private Participant Community
Connect with other men currently completing the program in a private Facebook community designed for questions, shared learning, support, and thoughtful discussion.
Graduate Support
Stay connected after the 8 weeks through a private graduate community and monthly group check-ins with Dr. Stoehr to ask questions, find support, and receive guidance.
Eight Weeks of Growth
The Intimacy Cipher builds a participant’s understanding over time. Each week introduces literature-based education designed to add another piece to the larger picture, with opportunities to reflect, apply what you’re learning, and ask questions.
Watch the Free Introductory Session
Begin with Dr. Stoehr’s free, 20-minute introduction to perimenopause, intimacy, and the purpose behind The Intimacy Cipher.
Complete a Short Questionnaire
Share what brings you here so we can better understand your goals, questions, and current situation.
Talk With Dr. Stoehr on Zoom
Have a one-on-one consultation to ask questions, discuss your circumstances, and determine whether the program is a good fit.
Begin the Eight-Week Program
If it feels like the right next step, join our physician-led lessons, live sessions, and participant community.
Support Doesn’t Disappear at Week Eight
Finishing the program doesn’t mean every question has been answered or every new habit has become automatic. Graduates can stay connected through a private community and join monthly group calls with Dr. Stoehr. You can revisit what you’ve learned, ask questions as new situations arise, and keep applying the work as your relationship and your wife’s transition evolve.
Education With Clear Boundaries
What the Program Does
- Physician-led education for male partners
- Evidence-backed information about perimenopause and intimacy
- Practical guidance for becoming a more supportive partner
- Space for reflection, questions, and continued learning
- Support for understanding your own role and well-being
What the Program Doesn’t Do
- Medical care for your wife or partner with a vagina
- Individual diagnosis or treatment for your partner
- Relationship or couples therapy
- Prescription or medication recommendations for your wife
- A guarantee about sexual desire or relationship outcomes
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Protect Your Spark
Take the first step with the free introductory session and learn how greater understanding can help you support your female partner and protect your connection.
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FAQs About
The Intimacy Cipher
Start With Understanding
If you want to better understand your partner’s perimenopause or menopause transition and your role beside her, our free introductory session is the place to begin.
